Friday 26 April 2013

Working Class Hero is something to be

"Keep you doped with religion and sex and TV
And you think you're so clever and classless and freeBut you're still peasants as far as I can see
This is easily my n'th post about women, violence & injustice to women.

Modern day woman is often used as a slang. "Shaadi ke liye hume gharelu ladki chahiye", "We want a smart woman who is capable of carrying out her daily activities". You want the same person to be modern and homely depending on her home/office scenario. I think its high time the term "homely" changes to modern day significance. Homely can no longer mean loves to stay at home, knows how to cook, wash, nurture etc. Homely should start to mean be outgoing, fully able at the work place, have a social circle yet, be able to come home and care about why the gardener's not trimming the bushes. To be a part of today's world and yet pay attention to the small details should be what "homely" means.

Today's middle-class woman on an average has a degree worth having (i.e. not a B.A. in Civics) but a degree that can enable her to stay on her own, manage office work, purchase long-term belongings (e.g. sofa, car, Lazyboy etc.) yet attend parties, go dancing with other men with whom she's not necessarily sexually involved, go on trips with her friends where men might out number women but that is fine - cause modern day woman on a daily basis faces exactly that in any situation she is in. Whether be it in the bus she boards, the office she attends, the gym she goes to, the road she walks on her way home, the supermarket she enters to buy her daily groceries - men always outnumber women. That doesn't freak her out, why should a trip be any different.

Modern day woman has sleep overs at friends places who are of the opposite sex. Doesn't mean there's anything unworthy involved. It just means she can see her friends to be beyond the limitations that we have been brought up with - that he is a MAN. So does the modern day man. He acknowledges it when he notices that they are friends and respects and honours that.

Modern day man has as much role to play as modern day woman in growing out of the box in which we were nurtured. The fixed ideals with which we were brought up has been outdone by both parties equally.

Who needs to acknowledge that is the media. For media would still like to portray as a man and a woman alone, must most surely be overcome by their cannibalistic carnal feelings. Do the mass of India still like to amuse themselves with the idea that a man and woman no matter what their relationship is if closed in a room for hours would most definitely end up in sex? For we are weak people void of any conscience or self-control?

Abroad women feel confident enough to wear revealing clothes for it is acceptable by everybody that she is confident about her sexuality. Here women are told to hide it all away for it reflects poorly not only on our character but also people may think too wrongly of it.

Are we holding ourselves back in a war between what we were taught, what we feel is correct and what the world today deserves? Or is it all going to go down the rat hole either way?